The Sex Ed We All Deserve: Review of ‘Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults’ by Ruby Rare

With its pleasure-focused approach, Sex Ed is an exciting and practical guide to sex penned by the iconic Ruby Rare. Rare is a sex educator and body-positive advocate who sets the bar high while bringing us the inclusive and insightful sex education we all deserve.

Cover of ‘Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults’ by Ruby Rare with illustrations by Sofie Birkin

A quick flick through this book highlights the highly accessible and playful nature of Ruby’s work, along with gorgeous (and very sexy) illustrations by Sofie Birkin. And since we are all adults, it’s wonderful that Ruby is able to share her depth of expertise in a more sexually explicit manner.

She beautifully creates an encouraging space for everyone to learn while covering a wide range of vital topics with candour. This book is full of invaluable information, with topics such as sexting, solo sex, pegging, sex and periods, and finding the right porn for you. Ruby Rare leaves no stone unturned. Not only does Sex Ed help you learn new things, but it is also great for clearing up misconceptions and unlearning harmful ideas from the past, as well as solidifying the knowledge you presently hold.

As a bisexual woman who grew up with zero sex education at school in a place where it is illegal to be queer, this book gave me so much joy and made me feel so seen.

Rare successfully engrosses the reader as her brilliance shines through with a compassionate tone of voice. Whether you are reading about a familiar area or diving into a new topic that you have been curious about, Sex Ed is always a pleasure to read. As a bisexual woman who grew up with zero sex education at school in a place where it is illegal to be queer, this book gave me so much joy and made me feel so seen.

Throughout the book, Rare urges us to re-evaluate our relationship with sex and, importantly, with ourselves. Sex Ed includes fun little activities for you to reflect on and engage with the topics discussed, which is an extremely exciting (and highly effective) approach to learning and exploration. One such activity that I loved examines the idea of ‘first time’ while asking us to redefine what the notion of virginity means to us. Another activity encourages us to process and acknowledge aspects of sexuality in a caring and healthy manner.

Sexuality activity in the book: “It’s OK to”

If you loved Flo Perry’s How to Have Feminist Sex: A Fairly Graphic Guide, then Sex Ed is definitely for you. And if you haven’t checked that one out yet, then here is another fabulous book recommendation.

Reading Sex Ed will leave you better equipped to communicate what you want, both to yourself and your partners. It’s also apt for adults at any stage in their journey. A stunning addition to my bookshelf, I could not recommend this fantastic masterpiece enough!

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